| Grex > Inbetween > #22: WHY MUST WE GROW UP AT ALL? |  |
| WHY MUST WE GROW UP AT ALL? | 
Mar 8 18:42 UTC 1995 |
We are all growing up. This really kind of sucks. But how has this whole "adult becoming" process affected you? How has it affcted what you say, do, or who you talk to? How does it affect friendships?
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Mar 9 03:25 UTC 1995 |
Wow! I'd been thinking of entering an item like this too. I became an "adult" a little less than a week ago, and a lot is the same, and a lot of stuff is now different. For one thing, I'm now considered legally responsable enough to do things without having to get my parents' permission (not that getting their permission to do things was ever a problem), and I'm now allowed to register to vote as soon as I make it over to the Secretary of State's office (which I plan to do RSN). A lot of stuff is still the same, too. I still have the same jobs, the same school schedule, the same friends, and things like that. I'm especially glad about the last one. I'm not sure how different it's going to be in the long run. I think growing up is a much bigger process than just the one birthday when it is legally recognized as happening.
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Mar 9 03:56 UTC 1995 |
but it's more then just turning 18...it's the sudden facing of the real world, going off to collage, etc
| response 3 of 220: |
Mar 9 05:23 UTC 1995 |
Yeah, but I haven't done that yet, or haven't gone off to college anyway. I'm still not sure exactly what the real world is, or how much of it I've faced.
| response 4 of 220: |
Mar 9 13:52 UTC 1995 |
reality is differentforeverybody (sorry...damn space bar only works every now and then.)
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Mar 10 09:46 UTC 1995 |
You guys know me in real life. I'm 21. I AM NEVER GROWING UP!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHHAAHHAHA Never. I plan on being this way forever. Heeee! Eric
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Mar 10 23:50 UTC 1995 |
growing up seems to involve a combination of being financially self-reliant and planning for the future in specific terms. i am doing moderately well in the former but the latter continues to elude me, even though i have a retirement plan through my employment benefits program.
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Mar 11 20:34 UTC 1995 |
I am 18 as of two weeks ago today. I'm still financially reliant on my parents and probably will be (for tuition, etc) for at least another two and a half years, depending on whether I graduate in three or four years. So far being 18 is not really different, since I don't smoke, don't go to nightclubs or other age-limited places, and I don't really care *who* gets elected governor of anything. Except I hope my friend Nick gets elected student body president just because student council would be ridiculously screwed up ;)
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Mar 11 23:50 UTC 1995 |
I think that this is a situation of preconceptions chanigng with time.
Today people live longer and live more untraditionally. I know of several
friends who had to move back home after college for fo
financial reasons. In the old days people got married young and set upon
a specific course, but today the world is much more crowded and the
job market is not nearly as stable. And we have found out that the
dreams our parents had are not necessarily the dreams that we have for
ourselves How many of you reading this really want a house in the 'burbs and a
25-year mortgage? I personally wouldnt live in the 'burbs again unless I had a
gun pointed to my head?
We should never grow up! We should fight and rebel and be whoever the hell
we want to be, and we should use the pursuit of those ideals as a way to
stay young. I have friends who are in their 40s who are as young as
any of my college-age friends. It really is all in the mind.
RICH
/HLEP
| response 9 of 220: |
Mar 12 00:54 UTC 1995 |
I don`t think we should ever GROW up!! I will be 40 this summer and my wife still tells me on a regular basis that I need to grow up and act my age. To hell with that!! Stay young and think young never GROW UP
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Mar 12 23:01 UTC 1995 |
Amen, Jemmie. I'm 27, still haven't "grown up" yet. There are a few issues involved though, and financial responsibility is such a small part of becoming an adult human ... we've come to equating financial independence with releasing our sense of wonder, joy, and playful- ness at the world. I need to become financial independent, but not if it means becoming stoic and stodgy (and it doesn't need to: I just haven't figured out how to yet :)
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Mar 13 04:56 UTC 1995 |
Some people, like me, have been TRYING for some twenty-four years to at least grow up a little bit. There's a lot involved to this growing up stuff, and it's all such a gradual thing. I don't think you could put your finger on any exact moment when you could say that you had become an adult. As for me, I'm not sure I'll ever become an adult fully. I don't like the requirements.
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Mar 14 05:34 UTC 1995 |
The growing ujp process gets strange if you leave home around the recognized age of accountablity for some reason. . .I certainly am a bit different here at school that I am at home. I'm still wondering how I'm going to explain thie tatto to my mother when she picks me up at the end of next quarter. At least I don't have to worry about it tyhis weekend.
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Mar 14 13:59 UTC 1995 |
the TATTOO?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? you are forgetting to mention smething to me, i think..... and i caon't wait for you to get here1!!!
| response 14 of 220: |
Mar 14 19:45 UTC 1995 |
Bhell- so are you still going to get it her in A2? Still want me to come with?
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Mar 16 16:40 UTC 1995 |
bhell: you're going to be home this weekend too? Cool! Give me a call or something :)
| response 16 of 220: |
Mar 16 19:53 UTC 1995 |
Well, I'm 18 as of three days before lynne (sorry, I had to) and as of next year, I will be financially independant of my parents. I don't plan very well, but I am learning. Turning 18 was sort of anticlimactic, in spite of teh huge surprise party my friends gave me. Not much has really changed. I don't know if that is because I was relatively grown up before, or that I'm still a kid now. I guess time will tell.
| response 17 of 220: |
Mar 19 03:11 UTC 1995 |
<lynne gives danyel the requisite smack upside the head> I'm never going to grow up! :)
| response 18 of 220: |
Mar 19 04:36 UTC 1995 |
I grew up long ago. I still share the joy and excitement of dicovering the world around me. I feel you can grow up and deal with responsibility, and also continue to play and love life. Children play; adults go to work. The key is to enjoy what you do and not be afraid to have fun and laugh. Adults can learn a lot about themselves by watching children.
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Mar 21 18:09 UTC 1995 |
Meg, I didn't tell you? Perahps because I knew I'd get just that reaction :) Anne I don't think I'm going to get it here. I'm going to wait until I buy my books for Spring Quarter. And 18 was sort of an anticlimactic birthday for me too. I know how you feel Danny boy. 21 however, willl be far from boring. Speaking of classes, is Hope on a quarter system?
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Mar 21 19:36 UTC 1995 |
Bhell- Alrighty, just let me know if you want me to tag along..
| response 21 of 220: |
Mar 22 18:56 UTC 1995 |
I think so. Might be semester, but it's not trimester.
| response 22 of 220: |
Mar 28 16:16 UTC 1995 |
People suck.
| response 23 of 220: |
Apr 1 06:14 UTC 1995 |
We love you too face.
| response 24 of 220: |
Jul 25 15:21 UTC 1995 |
No, face...it goes....Mean people suck. *grin*