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Nice things about being female
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Dec 14 13:07 UTC 1997 |
Does anyone enjoy being a woman anymore? Some of the things entered
here recently make being female sound like an endless series of
various unpleasantnesses. Here's the place to say what's good about it.
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omni
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response 1 of 100:
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Dec 14 18:18 UTC 1997 |
I'll say this:
I'm not a woman, but I am glad they exist; if not there would be no song,
no literature and no reason for going on in this life. Women are a ray of
sunshine after a long rainy dreary day.
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headdoc
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response 2 of 100:
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Dec 14 23:34 UTC 1997 |
My goodness, there are so many wonderful things about being a woman. I
wouldn't even begin to know where to start. Not the least of it all is to
be able to carery a child in your womb and then to be able to nurse that child
and give it its first and most essential sustanance. Having to deal with a
period every month is a nusance but no where as unpleasant as it must sound
when we (women) complain about it. We certainly dont have to deal with being
embarrassed by having erections at unwanted times, nor nocturnal emissions.
And many of us can have multiple orgasms. I'll let others chip in from here
on.
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valerie
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response 3 of 100:
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Dec 15 04:16 UTC 1997 |
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birdlady
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response 4 of 100:
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Dec 15 05:27 UTC 1997 |
I love being a woman. I don't have to shave my face every day, I can cry
whenever I want to, I have a shapely figure, and we can get away with any hair
length or clothing style. =) Oh, and if I pout well enough, I can get a man
to do all the icky jobs. <eg>
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omni
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response 5 of 100:
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Dec 15 20:29 UTC 1997 |
Not this one, my dear. ;) Well, maybe. ;)
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i
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response 6 of 100:
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Dec 16 02:13 UTC 1997 |
Yea, women have a *lot* more freedom to be themselves and do as they
please. Men have to jam themselves into the macho "manly" mold or
*really* suffer for it. (Though A^2 is much better than most places
that way.)
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clees
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response 7 of 100:
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Dec 16 16:05 UTC 1997 |
Not being macho isn't valued very much among some women ya know. In the end
they (severe exaggeration) all want a "real" man.
On the other hand, trying to be macho isn't all that great either, especially
when you haven't got special physical skills (skiing, rollerblading, squash,
skateing, surfing, body building). I fit none of mentioned physical skills,
I play a fair game of soccer, but I certainly am not good.
Nay, If showing off is required let me just be myself.
Sometimes women are to be envied:
bearing children, multple orgasms, great figure, femininity, grace.
Sometimes not:
harassment, rape, pms...
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valerie
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response 8 of 100:
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Dec 17 00:03 UTC 1997 |
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beeswing
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response 9 of 100:
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Dec 17 04:55 UTC 1997 |
Why Bees likes being a chick:
Long hair. Much more fashion options. Fake fingernails. Being graceful.
Guys who insist on carrying your luggage and opening doors for you.
Being curvy. Being able to be pregnant. Is socially acceptable for me to shop
when I am depressed. Can cry over stupid things and not be made fun of. Can
write off odd cravings as PMS. Can paint my toenails. Can share a bond with
other chicks that guys do not have with other guys. Can just whisper the word
"period" and watch guys run the opposite direction. Enjoying the fact that
sometimes guys find me mysterious. Tossing my head back in laughter when I beat
a guy at something like arm wrestling. Having maternal feelings, wanting to
take care of things. Getting to explain to guys what a velcro roller is (a guy
thought it was something you'd use in a laundry room, I told him it was for
hair). Indulging in my perfume fetish. Being able to have long legs that I can
show off with black tights.
I'll think of more later.
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aruba
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response 10 of 100:
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Dec 17 07:47 UTC 1997 |
"Is socially acceptable to shop when I'm depressed" ??? I don't understand -
is that different for women than it is for men? Sometimes buying a neat new
toy helps me when I'm depressed.
A couple of those things you said make it sound like you enjoy making men feel
embarrassed and inadequate.
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valerie
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response 11 of 100:
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Dec 17 13:28 UTC 1997 |
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valerie
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response 12 of 100:
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Dec 17 13:48 UTC 1997 |
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valerie
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response 13 of 100:
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Dec 17 13:51 UTC 1997 |
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clees
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response 14 of 100:
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Dec 17 15:40 UTC 1997 |
oh but i have some of mentioned qualities too Val.
I work fulltime, do the my hoeseholding and can cook very well.
That's why I like to have to have people over for dinner, so that's my
nurturing side, grin.
In fact, in life what I want most is to work half time and take care of the
kids half time, and the other half time would be my partner.
It's an illusion, I know.
Uhm, I meant to say that the kids are taken care half time by my partner.
But making the big sacrifice and stopping with work altogether...
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orinoco
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response 15 of 100:
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Dec 17 23:34 UTC 1997 |
But unfortunately, a lot of the image of guys that's been coming up in this
item holds true...
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beeswing
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response 16 of 100:
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Dec 20 15:54 UTC 1997 |
Ohh dear. I do see where you all got the "I like stomping on guys" view.
Really, I don't rejoice in making anyone feel bad. Where I used to work was
99.5% female. All we had to do was say something like "Gee, I feel real
bloated, it must be time for my period" around a guy and they would be out of
there. I guess it's just funny to see how guys react to female things. But
there are many guys, like here on Grex, who don't get all goofy about it and
can discuss it like adults.
I like men. A LOT. Really, I do. :)
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aruba
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response 17 of 100:
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Dec 21 00:07 UTC 1997 |
Well, I believe you, and I guess I overreacted. I think it can be all right
to tease people, as long as they don't get hurt. (I mean, there's such a
thing as "playful teasing".) Some people have trouble telling when they've
crossed the line from playful teasing to hurtful teasing, though, and those
people shouldn't tease at all, IMO.
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beeswing
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response 18 of 100:
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Dec 21 05:27 UTC 1997 |
Yeah, I have to watch that.
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omni
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response 19 of 100:
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Dec 21 07:34 UTC 1997 |
I don't take teasing very well; I tend to respond with small arms fire.
I also don't like male bashing, because it not only demeans me, it also
demeans you.
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aruba
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response 20 of 100:
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Dec 21 18:54 UTC 1997 |
Here's something I never liked about being male; maybe that translates into
something other people like about being female:
When I was in high school, I always felt it was up to boys to "make the first
move" when they were attracted to a girl. I was very shy, so I never did,
despite having nearly overpowering feelings of love and lust all the time.
This was enormously frustrating, but I felt I had no one to blame but myself,
so I just got depressed about it.
As I've gotten older, I discovered many exceptions to the "make the first
move" rule among mature women. Adult society seems to have decided it's silly
and discarded it. But teenage society, it always seemed to me, was still
stuck with it. (Then again, maybe the problem was just that no one was
interested in me. ;))
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beeswing
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response 21 of 100:
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Dec 21 19:39 UTC 1997 |
MAle bashing? Nah. Ok, how I meant it was like this: It makes me happy when I
accomplish something that anyone thinks I can't do. Paritcularly if it's
something most women don't do. So if I, say, beat a guy at arm wrestling, I
can't help but feel good. But that doesn't mean I think the guy is any less a
person.
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valerie
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response 22 of 100:
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Dec 21 20:14 UTC 1997 |
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headdoc
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response 23 of 100:
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Dec 21 21:12 UTC 1997 |
It was so interesting and touching to read your comments, Mark about having
to "make the first move" and what that meant to you. When I grew up, a girl
never made the first move, so I often pined from afar. Dreamt, wished and
hoped. And then, when I got old enough to realize I "could" make the
first move, and that it was accepted by society, I was already long
married and not
about to, nor did I need to. But your comment made me think of so many
years
of time wasted and things that might have been, had I felt it was acceptable
to show a guy that I liked him first.
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aruba
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response 24 of 100:
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Dec 22 07:46 UTC 1997 |
It really is a dumb convention, isn't it?
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