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abchan
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Differences Between Men and Women
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Oct 23 18:40 UTC 1996 |
As a child, boys and girls play together without a problem. As kids get
older, they start segregating themselves and often get into a stage where
they think that members of the opposite sex might as well be aliens. Then
when you finally mature, you learn that although men and women are different,
they are also alike.
What do you think are some of the major (real) differences between men and
women?
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mcpoz
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response 1 of 64:
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Oct 24 00:40 UTC 1996 |
Men tend to be destructively competitive, superficial, and self-centered.
Women tend to be constructively cooperative, deep, and sharing.
Other than that, not a lot of difference.
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mta
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response 2 of 64:
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Oct 24 01:57 UTC 1996 |
Marc, it sounds like you've been hanging out with all the wrong people. I've
met more than an few superficial, self-centered women and more than a few
deep, sharing, cooperative men.
It's not the plumbing, it's the personality. (Of course, I suppose that it
could be argued that until recently a man had to work harder to be a
"sensitive, caring person" because of the way men and women have been raised,
but that's changing.)
How do men and differ primarily? Women bear young and nurse them. Men come
into the child nurture thing 9at least directly) only after the child's birth.
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clees
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response 3 of 64:
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Oct 24 06:39 UTC 1996 |
Men are reluctant to grow up (the only difference between men and boys
is the price of their toyz), and always keep a hang towards
independency meanwhile being dependent.
Therefore so many men have affairs, but always
tend to come back to their old nest.
A woman is loyal unless she loses her love/devotion for
somebody. If a woman has an affair, she is in love.
at least that's my impression of what I witnessed around me,
and of course that is by no means a standard.
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mcpoz
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response 4 of 64:
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Oct 24 10:21 UTC 1996 |
#1 was somewhat tongue in cheek. There are lots and lots of exceptions, but
if you find someone who "has to win", I'll wager it's a man. If you find
someone who wants to talk things over (without winning) and effecting a
resolution which respects everyones feelings, it is more likely to be a woman.
True, you and I know many exceptions, but I feel the generalization still
applies.
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mta
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response 5 of 64:
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Oct 24 17:58 UTC 1996 |
Well, OK, if you'll put that proviso on it -- that it's social rather than
inevitable, I guess it's true that I've rarely run into a woman who has to
turn every conversation into a contest for supremecy. ;)
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popcorn
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response 6 of 64:
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Oct 24 19:26 UTC 1996 |
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clees
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response 7 of 64:
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Oct 25 06:39 UTC 1996 |
Is that so?
YThen this difference is built in very very deep.
OK, life is a conspiracy: from your first days you are
expected to bahave according to your gender.
If someone behaves/acts like someone from the opposite sex, it is
considered strange/funny/queer.
Still, I think there is a basic difference, and that got to do with
the way both genders are built.
Then again, it is the y-chromosome that determines the gender, but if
hormones aren't produced according to this gender, and the balance is
exactly the opposite of what it should be then,
a woman (double XX) can be a man and vice versa.
This last part is now having its discussion about gender testing
for the Olympics (the Barr bodies and so on).
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birdlady
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response 8 of 64:
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Oct 25 19:44 UTC 1996 |
I tend to notice that the majority of men I know envy the fact that women can
be hugging each other and saying, "I love you" within three hours of
soul-searching and bonding, whereas it takes them a LONG time to form a deep
relationship with another man. If I see a guy hug another guy, it shocks me
sometimes because they are part of the rare few that are comfortable with a
true >>HUG<<. =) I say "the majority" because I know some of you guys are
cuddle bears at heart.
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mcpoz
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response 9 of 64:
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Oct 25 23:00 UTC 1996 |
One reported difference between men and women is that men generally test
significantly better for hand-eye cordination in 3-D spatial kinds of
activities. I have never seen any data or studies on this, but I have seen
this reported as fact.
When women talk among theirselves, the conversation often involves feelings.
Most men do not discuss feelings. (My perception).
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raven
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response 10 of 64:
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Oct 25 23:12 UTC 1996 |
re #9 Most men do not discuss feelings. My group of friends does.
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mta
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response 11 of 64:
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Oct 26 01:05 UTC 1996 |
Yes but it's so hard to sort the biological differences from the social
differences. Is that hand-eye coordination advantage because they've been
encouraged to practice more? Or because they have a different brain structure
before birth?
Even evaluation s o brain tissue at some point past birth could be misleading
since the brain, like much else about humans, develops in response to demands
made on it.
In studies, people had a very hard time interacting with a child until they
knew its gender. And their perception of the child's gender played a large
role in how they interacted with the child. That suggests that we are
subjected to very strong social cues from the moment o birth that influence
everything we are to become.
So, I still hold that the only differeifference we can be certain of is the
plumbing.
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mcpoz
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response 12 of 64:
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Oct 26 01:35 UTC 1996 |
(mcpoz tries another angle) - Don't girls develop socially and in school
earlier than boys, with boys catching up in mid-teens?
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mta
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response 13 of 64:
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Oct 26 01:53 UTC 1996 |
Well, tes -- but phsychology experiments have hown that people tend to
spend quite a bit more time talking to girls and cuddling with thm\em. Is
that response to babies inclination or is it training?
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iggy
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response 14 of 64:
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Oct 31 16:08 UTC 1996 |
most men will not discuss urinals, either...;-)
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clees
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response 15 of 64:
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Nov 4 07:09 UTC 1996 |
huh?
You lost me there.
Still, what I posted before.
How strange must it be to you when you suddenly are
told that you are of the opposite sex, while you always
thou you were the other.
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klg
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response 16 of 64:
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Nov 4 17:33 UTC 1996 |
Let me see if I understand this Plumber's Theory of
Sexual Differntiation.
If I take some newly hatched chicks, some newborn lions, and
some newborn deer and raise them independently, when they ma-
tured, I would find hens strutting in the barnyard while
roosters brooded the eggs, male lions doing the hunting
while lionesses sat in the shade, and does fighting it out
over which gets to mate with the most desirable buck??
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popcorn
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response 17 of 64:
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Nov 4 19:37 UTC 1996 |
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chelsea
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response 18 of 64:
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Nov 5 00:41 UTC 1996 |
There is nothing in parenting that requires a penis. For
conception it is helpful but fucking is not parenting.
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klg
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response 19 of 64:
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Nov 5 02:37 UTC 1996 |
17: But aren't they (the Ms and the Fs) all the same,
except for the "plumbing"?
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clees
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response 20 of 64:
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Nov 5 07:30 UTC 1996 |
Plumbing must be an american expression.
I cannot exactly put my finger on the meaning.
Can anybody help me here?
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remmers
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response 21 of 64:
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Nov 5 11:33 UTC 1996 |
From my dictionary:
"plumbing: the pipes, fixtures, and other apparatus
of a water, gas, or sewage system"
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clees
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response 22 of 64:
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Nov 6 07:28 UTC 1996 |
That I knew, I mean in this gender context.
Or should I take things literally?
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popcorn
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response 23 of 64:
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Nov 6 07:35 UTC 1996 |
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chelsea
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response 24 of 64:
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Nov 6 13:18 UTC 1996 |
Like the spinal column, tear ducts, bile ducts? ;-)
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