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popcorn
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Justice
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Jan 25 04:08 UTC 1994 |
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remmers
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response 1 of 22:
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Jan 25 11:18 UTC 1994 |
Hmm, I think I tend to use the word in the way you describe. I've not
been conscious of a gender difference in its use, although perhaps there
is one. I do agree that it's a self-effacing mannerism.
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arabella
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response 2 of 22:
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Jan 26 08:47 UTC 1994 |
I just don't know.
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gracel
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response 3 of 22:
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Jan 27 03:16 UTC 1994 |
I hadn't noticed a gender gap, hadn't thought about it. But it has a
trivializing effect, whether used about a person or an activity, and
maybe males are less likely to put themselves down?
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katie
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response 4 of 22:
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Jan 27 20:25 UTC 1994 |
I actually worjk with someone who calls people and says, "Hi, this
is just <her name>".
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headdoc
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response 5 of 22:
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Jan 28 16:16 UTC 1994 |
A particular annoyance to me is when I enter a restaiurant to eat alone and
the person who greets you says, "Just one?" I never say it but I always think
. . ."isn't one enough?"ey{w{
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popcorn
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response 6 of 22:
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Jan 29 19:40 UTC 1994 |
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bartlett
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response 7 of 22:
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Feb 3 19:42 UTC 1994 |
And that extends to all sorts of things other than eating. I think it is
part of the men are supposed to be individuals while women are supposed to
be parts of a collective identity thing. Pardon my terrible English, but
I'm hungry.
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gracel
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response 8 of 22:
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Feb 5 03:30 UTC 1994 |
For some things, it used to be that the behavior was not considered
*safe* for women (walking alone after dark, e.g.) so a woman who
engaged in [whatever] was presumed to be indifferent to her *safety*,
hence strange.
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young
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response 9 of 22:
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Feb 18 00:24 UTC 1994 |
Whattay mean, "WAS not considered safe"? It still ain't
safe, and many women are painfully aware of that.
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gracel
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response 10 of 22:
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Feb 23 02:25 UTC 1994 |
Walking alone after dark *in some places* is not safe, as many
people of either sex know to their sorrow. However, ("e.g." means
"for the sake of an example" and that's what I meant) as far as I
know merely sitting alone in a restaurant is not particularly
dangerous now, yet there was a time when women expected not to do
*anything* in public alone. (Or was that just the "ladies", showing off?
My knowledge of social history is less than my interest)
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tinydncr
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response 11 of 22:
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Mar 14 21:58 UTC 1994 |
I don't know. It can't be a result of men trivializing our actions. If
a man trivializes me, I might "just" have to kick his ass! It's something
we say. Not them. That makes it our problem. I say it too sometimes, but
I vow NEVER to say it again.
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jason242
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response 12 of 22:
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Apr 7 22:20 UTC 1994 |
I think maybe you're making a mountain out of a molehill. Perhaps its
*just* a word that happens to get used alot. I don't believe that society
or anyone else has conditioned women to use *just* to belittle them.
Maybe it does have to do with low self-esteem, but I don't think anyone
caused it in most cases.
As to my opinion about women eating alone...I think most men assume
(incorrectly) that any women can easily have friends or lovers or any of the
like. So when a woman is alone I think men instictively feel something must be
wrong with that woman. A man on the other hand understands that other men have
problems sometimes in social situations. The same idea applied in High School-
At dances a guy could go stag, but a woman? I guess we still live in a
society that is gender biased.
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aruba
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response 13 of 22:
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Apr 7 22:43 UTC 1994 |
I for one, don't assume anything is wrong with a woman who is eating alone.
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jason242
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response 14 of 22:
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Apr 8 03:20 UTC 1994 |
Can you honestly say that when you've been in aresturaunt, not a bar, that
you did not notice a woman dining alone and at least wonder why???
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aruba
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response 15 of 22:
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Apr 8 11:35 UTC 1994 |
I might notice (or I might not), but I would *not* assume anything
was wrong.
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jason242
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response 16 of 22:
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Apr 8 16:24 UTC 1994 |
fair enough
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jon
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response 17 of 22:
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Apr 22 15:27 UTC 1994 |
I'd probably assume that anyone eating alone at a nice restaurant is
traveling on business. It took me awhile to get used to that.
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headdoc
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response 18 of 22:
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Apr 22 20:00 UTC 1994 |
I can honestly say that when I'm dining in a restaurant and I see a woman
dining alone I do not wonder why. I assume its because she's hungry. :-)
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brighn
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response 19 of 22:
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Jul 19 15:37 UTC 1994 |
Gee, I've seen men eating alone and wondered why. I've seen women
eating alone and ignored them.
I use just a lot too. I agree, though, that it's usually self-deprecating.
On the phone, I'll say, "It's just me," and kick myself at the same time
for doing it.
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asddsa
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response 20 of 22:
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Apr 1 17:35 UTC 2005 |
popcorn sucks
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asddsa
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Apr 1 17:35 UTC 2005 |
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asddsa
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Apr 1 17:36 UTC 2005 |
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