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What to do with an obnoxious user on the dial-ins Mark Unseen   Jul 15 21:25 UTC 1996

We've got a local user who always connects to Grex on the dial-ins.  He enters
offensive stuff in party.  He's on Grex a lot.  People have told me he says
he never reads his mail.

Any advice about what to do?
Thanks!
43 responses total.
brighn
response 1 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 15 21:32 UTC 1996

what sort of obnoxious stuff?
i mean, there's several levels of twittery:
swearing for the sake of swearing, SPAMming, thretening people who live 200+
miles away with physical violence, threatening to damage/bomb accounts,
generic hostility, homophoia/sexism/racism/religious attacks, threatening
people who live >200 miles away with physical violence...
I personally try to ignore or play with twits who can't do me or my account
any real harm, at least in Party.  (When I want a fight, I come to the Cfs.
=} )
brighn
response 2 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 15 21:35 UTC 1996

(that should have been <200 miles in the sixth line, i think... the point
being, there's a huge difference between a teen from a2 threatening to go to
bangalore, for instance, and "kick your ass", and an adult from a2 threatening
to go to detroit and "kkick your ass", since inthe latter case there's a
remote possibility that it could actually happen)
rcurl
response 3 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 15 22:01 UTC 1996

Would you provide a sample, please, Valerie? The treatment depends upon
the symptoms.
chelsea
response 4 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 02:45 UTC 1996

Ignore him or her.  If a twit bothers you it's because you
*let* the twit bother you.  It'sso simple, really.
giry
response 5 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 02:54 UTC 1996

        I was the one to report this "problem" person to popcorn. My only
concern is for the newbies coming into party and seeing this person swearing
like there is no tomorrow. We forget sometimes that there are younger people
on grex and most of the time they are in party. That is all that I was
concerned about. 
brighn
response 6 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 03:08 UTC 1996

The threats are falling into the worst twit category, that of
indicating a desire to meet IRL with other users and cause them
bodily harm.  I don't think that the users in question (there are two tonight,
and I've mailed popcorn details) *would* meet IRL, but they're definitely
creating a hostile environment beyond normal twittiness.  I'd have the phone
traced, if possible, and get ahold of them.  The local twit mentioned previous
problems with the police in re: his Net threats.  Then again, he mentioned
killing his mother because she wouldn't let him get a driver's license, and
breaking out of an asylum and killing an entire family to get their modem.

I think Audrey Bricker is needed in cases like these.  =}
popcorn
response 7 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 03:36 UTC 1996

Re 4: *I'm* perfectly happy to ignore a twit, or better yet ask serious
questions about his twitting until he ends up confused.  But I'm not the one
who has to sit in party with this guy.  And it's pretty darn impossible to
train an endless supply of party users to all ignore the twit.

Re requests for examples:  This is a fairly random sample of the stuff this
users says in party.  These are the first 10 things he said this week in
party:

:  HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHH KIDDIES MISS ME?
:  LOOK MUTHA FUCKAZ I SAID DID YOU MISS ME!
: LAUGH LAUGH LAUGH HAHAHAHAHAHAH
: HEY FUCKS I AM TALKING!
:  AHHHHHRGG ! LOOK I WILL CUT YOU PEOPLE
: WELL GOOD FAGGOT!
:  I GOT TO SAY SUMTIN!
:  HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAAHAH WICKED
: FUCK OFF CUNT
: I'LL SMACK DA HO

Usually if you wait these clowns out, they get bored, or realize how boring
they are to everyone else, and they go away.  In this particular case, this
particular twit is fairly tenacious.  He's on Grex on a daily basis, always
posting this type of stuff.
scg
response 8 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 03:46 UTC 1996

For a bigger sampling, try:
grep ^joker666: /var/spool/party/log/party.log
chelsea
response 9 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 03:50 UTC 1996

I would think it would be a whole lot easier to educate and
re-educate party users that the best solution is to completely
ignore twits than it would be to try to eliminate twits on Grex.

Twits thrive on attention.  Starve them.  
brighn
response 10 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 06:53 UTC 1996

Besides, some of us find twits amusing...
OTOH, someone like j0ker666 *does* upset the newbies.
Even educating the regular users about twit-filterin (now so much easier
thanks to Jan's modifications) doesn't help the brandnew users, who are just
trying to get their bearings.
Eh, I probably played a little too rough with the twits today.
The problem with filtering is curiosity... you may filter the twit, but you
still get to read what everyone else is saying to them, unless you somehow
get everyone in the channel to filter the twit...
*shrug*
(or ignore, instead of filter)
rcurl
response 11 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 07:43 UTC 1996

Start discussing his postings in a (heavy...) serious manner - not
in an amusing manner. Some barbs are appropriate. But in effect carry
on a serious and even-tempered psychological analysis of the material.
You should push him/it/her into such a fury that he/it/she might just
blow a fuse.
tsty
response 12 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 08:22 UTC 1996

just think how helpful joker666 will be when it finds out about
flying its help flag .....
  
since joker666 is on a fishing expedition, it seems, only the fish will bite.
bjorn
response 13 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 13:15 UTC 1996

As with E-mail options, there are options in party that allow people to create
their own twit filters.  While it is easier to ignore someone when you have
a program that blocks out what they say, such programs have their downfalls
- one of which being slowing down getting into party.  
I really try to stay away from party, but in the rare events that I do go in
either no one is there - or at least one twit is.  I see that you've already
discussed filter files - and possibly their problems (I'm not going back to
read it again).  A lot of what is said here makes sense - Twits thrive on
attention, starve them - I have a cousin who thrives on being annoying, I
ignore him.
vedagiri
response 14 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 15:03 UTC 1996

         If a lot of people are complaining about a certain person, why dont
we try actions against him/her. What i mean is,, if a number of partyers
complain about another 'party guest', kill his party session ( somehow.. staff
should be able to say more on this ). And it should take atleast half an hour
for the jerk to reenter party.
        If i were a twit ( i am not :) ) and it took me half an hour to reenter
party because i was a twit, i would reconsider being a twit!
brighn
response 15 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 15:48 UTC 1996

For my  part, Rane, I've tried every twit tactic I can think of,
based on what's worked in the past:  agreeing with him, sinking
to his level, ridiculing him, psychoanalyzing him, debating with his
statements in a serious and level-headed way, ignoring him,
offering to meet him, threatening to call the police... I've
done all of these long enough to see what the efects would be.
The only thing that seems to alter his mood is a prolonged period
of agreeing with him followed by a sudden reversal.  
j0ker666 likes to think he's god, so i worshipped him.  another
user after a while pointed out that god spelled backwards is dog
and that therefore user odye is god, so we all started a Cult of Odye.
j0ker666 became incredibly angry and insistent, very quickly.
Fascinating.
(I'm actually writing a book with a psychotic character much like
j0ker666, which is why i'm going to so much work to test reactions...
this is research for me.  =} )
Direct addressing will not work for a consistent amount of time.
All users should make a concerted effort to ignore him, but even
then, he and his two minions (yep, there's three of them now, all
direct dialers) sit and gloat amongst themselves that everyone
has filtered them...
Why can't we do what was done in the freekman case?
Is there no way to trace the calls?
janc
response 16 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 16:55 UTC 1996

I think a lot of people are going to take the strategy of saying "I'm putting
that pig xyz on my ignore list" and then only pretend to do it.  This way the
satisfy their curiousity about what is going on while still snubbing xyz. 
Interestingly, I find it is much easier not to respond to a twit if I am
pretending to :ignore him.  In other words, the :ignore command even works
if you don't actually use it.

j0ker666 sounds more like a kid than a psychotic.  Rather low in what they
call "Emotional Intelligence" these days.  Not much of a difference, but there
is a chance of growing out of the latter.
pfv
response 17 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 17:11 UTC 1996

Well, I still think the kick/ban concept for party (commented on 
elsewhere) would be a nontrivial 'patch', and should be channel-specific 
as well - let it sulk in the corner ;-)

As far as growing out of it... First it has to survive puberty, Janc... 
That possibility gets smaller every minute, and eventually someone is 
going to get hurt - I can recall a night that some "clues" were tossed 
out as to the location of 'it', and there were about 3 regulars all ready 
to drive over and beat 'it' to death. At the time, I cautioned against 
making a mistake, since 'it' was very quick to begin shouting what had 
been merely a clue before..

Either the moron is going to make an honest slip eventually, or someone 
is going to become a deliberate scapegoat - and there is going to be a 
major physical confrontation. Either way, someone is going to get hurt 
and hurt badly.. I can only hope it's the real twit and his attackers 
either get away and chill out, or hide the body well ;-/

This is a bad situation that calls for the 'political correctness' 
efforts of those that prefer to legislate 'civility' in dealing with 
tels, mail, talk and our foreign friends. I rather imagine those 
idealists will preach some more and wring their hands, but nothing will 
be done.

IAE, it's not my 'call' and with :ignore seemingly working like a champ, 
the only people that will get involved are those simple enough to 
continue baiting/taunting/talking with the twits.

jenna
response 18 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 21:25 UTC 1996

listen... these people don't stop when you ignore them...
they get worse until they get caught in each other's blank space blocks.
brighn
response 19 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 21:33 UTC 1996

I've been wrong before, but j0ker666 sounds more like an adult
(19 or so) who is, in fact, sociopathic.  This is as opposed to
other problems users, such as freekman, who was obviously much younger.
*shrug*  evil kown and mr manson, OTOH, sound like they're a few years
younger, and are acting this way because they think j0ker is cool and they
want to emulate him.  (Unless ryan's hypothesis that all three of them are
the same person is right, but I don't think it is...)

They'll get bored, or mnet will come back and they'll go home.
chelsea
response 20 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 21:44 UTC 1996

I don't think you really get what ignoring someone means.
Ignoring someone means you decide their behavior doesn't
matter.  You take control (not often easy to do) and discipline
yourself not to let another person's actions manipulate you into
feeling angry or upset or powerless or anything.  The text
might be on the screen but not for you.  You have decided
it's not worth your mental and emotional attention.

This technique is not easy.  It's not an attention getter.  It's
not macho.  It's not obvious to the rest of the world that 
you've won a round.  But you have.  Try it.  I mean
really try it sometime.  You'll know you've got it when a twit
is not longer to pull your string for amusement.
chelsea
response 21 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 21:45 UTC 1996

#20 was in response to #18.
kerouac
response 22 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 16 21:53 UTC 1996

well lets see...he dials up...I know!  Hook up caller ID to the modems and
trace his phone numnber.  Then change the source code for Grex to specifically
the phone numbers (through caller ID) of everyone who dials in and DISCONNECT
this particular phone number.  Then he'd never be able to grex from his house
unless he either changes his p hone number or finds an ISP to telnet from.

**only kidding**  Seriously, you cant expect staff soluti ons to this sort
of thing.
jenna
response 23 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 17 03:50 UTC 1996

Mary, they don't shut up no matter how much you do. they flood
party with garbage even if *especially if no one is sayin anything to them*
the caps and anme -calling don't bug me so much as the flooding. that
really bugs me and disturbs my convos in a way i cannot and will not deal
with.
tsty
response 24 of 43: Mark Unseen   Jul 17 08:24 UTC 1996

chelsea's #20 is so totally right on that i, myslef, could not have
said it any better or diferently - commit #20 to memory.
 
there are filters, shold yo choose to learn one-two or three of them
which SELF-empower you to "ignore/shun" jerks.
  
slavering to baff for "protection" is worse than subservient.
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