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phenix
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happy hunting grounds
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Sep 17 22:41 UTC 2001 |
Finding mates: where do you find 'em?
single women/men, where does the modern single look>??
schoo? work? the net?
sound off for your favorites
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vidar
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response 1 of 155:
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Sep 18 00:33 UTC 2001 |
Well, when I first started going to Ring of Steel the first person I
made friends with after Smitty was a girl named Bree. I even attempted
to ask her out twice (though I should have known better the second
time). Short and sweet she's with someone else.
I have since seen more women in Ring I'm attracted too but they're all
too damn young.
There was a girl who worked where I work for a time who I was kinda
interested in, but she left and we really didn't talk that much except
for the usual nicities passing each other in the hall.
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michaela
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response 2 of 155:
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Sep 21 01:56 UTC 2001 |
Lots of good, chivalrous, intelligent men in the SCA, but they're all taken
(duh). :)
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eeyore
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response 3 of 155:
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Sep 21 04:26 UTC 2001 |
I could never date somebody I worked with...too messy.
I guess I have no clue where to find a mate....if I did know, I probably
wouldn't be single, eh? :)
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snowth
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response 4 of 155:
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Sep 22 01:55 UTC 2001 |
I hate dating, and hate being hit on. Somwhere in there, I suspect I like
people, but my chabnces of finding someone who doesn't immediately piss me
off are enourmously slim. Sucks, don't it?
(On the other hand, being a female undergrad willing to get dressed up on the
weekends for some reason makes me horrible pray to people who want to ask me
out or hit on me, so if I ever wasn't such a cold brat, I probably wouldn't
have too much trouble-- the problem isn't how to find people, it's how to get
rid of them because they bother me.)
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response 5 of 155:
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Sep 22 02:37 UTC 2001 |
Like eeyore, i (hopefully) wouldn't be single if i knew... Work - messy
& dangerous if they aren't in a decently distant part of a fairly big
company. School works better, but was *long* ago for me. The net - i've
looked at matchmaker sites occasionally, and they're crap unless you're
looking for casual sex - ultra-slow, eager to puff up their "match counts"
with people a punch-card program could figure out were poor matches (100+
miles away, i don't fit her required age range, smoke so much that she was
chased out of LA by the EPA, etc.), etc., etc. At this point, i'm living
my life, and okay if i meet someone and okay if i don't.
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vidar
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response 6 of 155:
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Sep 22 13:35 UTC 2001 |
RoS has some new female members, but as usual, most of them are under
my required age limit.
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eeyore
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response 7 of 155:
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Sep 22 14:38 UTC 2001 |
I guess we ought to ask what the required age limit is.
I know mine at this point is no college kids. I don't mind Grad students, but
I'm too old to deal with the frat boys and what not...not in age, but in
mentality.
My 34 year old brother is dating at 23 year old girl right now....she's 2
years younger than me....that kinda bugs me. But I cannot complain about
it...when my mother was 23, she married my 36 year old father. (mum says it
runs in the famil...snicker!)
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phenix
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response 8 of 155:
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Sep 23 01:38 UTC 2001 |
i'd dye to be dateing a 23 year old girl!
hell
i'd die to be dating
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brighn
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response 9 of 155:
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Sep 23 03:00 UTC 2001 |
The question, Greg, is whether you'd dye a 23 year old if you were dating
her....
I don't think I have a hard-and-fast age limit right now (other than 16), but
I don't seem much interested in people under 23 or so.
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vidar
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response 10 of 155:
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Sep 23 14:01 UTC 2001 |
Generally my rule is no one under 18, although when I was interested in
Bree she was 17. However, I am usually more attracted to people who
are older than I am.
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phenix
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response 11 of 155:
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Sep 23 15:21 UTC 2001 |
bree? from commie? the ultimate in chottie technologies?
dye only if she asked;)
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michaela
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response 12 of 155:
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Sep 23 19:46 UTC 2001 |
Nobody under 23, and they *must* have life experience (i.e. paying rent,
working at least 25 hours a week, some school or a desire to go to school...)
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orinoco
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response 13 of 155:
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Sep 24 19:09 UTC 2001 |
I think the Bree you know from commie is someone else, Greg. (But yeah, I'd
dye her...)
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vidar
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response 14 of 155:
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Sep 24 20:54 UTC 2001 |
Re # 11: You wouldn't have known this Bree, Greg, as she lives in
Northville.
I may have already mentioned this, but I don't date co-workers: too
dangerous.
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michaela
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response 15 of 155:
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Sep 25 00:44 UTC 2001 |
Same here. Been there, done that, went through the nonsense. Ick.
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kewy
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response 16 of 155:
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Oct 1 04:32 UTC 2001 |
Stuff happens on accident. Maybe not on accident, but it generally doesn't
happen when you plan for it. I met my dude on Yahoo personals, I was looking
through it for kicks and grins.
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arianna
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response 17 of 155:
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Oct 1 15:56 UTC 2001 |
<mental image of greg turning his next gf blue or puce colored>
I don't date. I hate dating. It's stupid.
If someone's mate material, I'll find out through friendship. The cornerstone
to a relationship should be friendship, anyway; so why bother going through
the motions of dating when you can just make friends. If something evolves
out of friendship, it's has more potential for longevity. If you remain
friends and no relationship occurs, than what have you lost?
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flem
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response 18 of 155:
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Oct 1 18:05 UTC 2001 |
Sounds like you mean something different by "dating" than I do, arianna.
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senna
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response 19 of 155:
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Oct 2 17:22 UTC 2001 |
It's almost always too random to apply to a system. I like it that way.
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orinoco
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response 20 of 155:
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Oct 2 17:53 UTC 2001 |
(Are kicks and grins more or less entertaining than shits and giggles?)
"Dating" does seem to be a word that's expanding to fill all available space.
It seems to center around "met him for coffee a few times, we've fooled around
a little, I kind of like him," but I've heard it mean anywhere from "I talked
to him once and now he won't stop calling me" to "I haven't gotten around to
proposing marriage yet, but give me a few weeks."
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snowth
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response 21 of 155:
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Oct 5 23:15 UTC 2001 |
Yeah 17! You totally think like I do. Dating sucks! Power to the people who
hate random people!
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quintis
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response 22 of 155:
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Oct 21 02:22 UTC 2001 |
I have to say that I don't "hate" dating, but I have found it extremly
stressful and at times uncomfortable, so I'm not that fond of it either. At
this point in my life, though, the main problem seems to be just getting a
chance to meet new people. I agree that long term relationships should be on
a more solid base than "the sex that we had that first night was great , so
I'll stick around and see how the rest goes" sort of basis. As I said, its
the meeting of those new people to make new friends that has me stumped..
by the way, just what is "Ring of Steel"?
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eeyore
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response 23 of 155:
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Oct 21 03:27 UTC 2001 |
Ummm...let's see....a tube-like round of extremely hard metal...
Sorry...couldn't resist. :)
Ring of Steel is a stage fencing group.
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orinoco
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response 24 of 155:
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Oct 23 18:16 UTC 2001 |
<twitches at the word `fencing,' but lets it slide>
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